My department generally feels like a safe space for queer folks. There are multiple out queer members of staff at various levels of seniority, and we have a pride flag hanging in the hallway. I am a queer woman, and I feel Much more comfortable being out there than I have in previous institutions. But in the first year of my PhD, my supervisor (an older, straight white man) dropped multiple hints about having “good gaydar” and at some point said to my face that he “didn’t think I was gay.”